Infidelity is one of the most difficult things that a marriage can go through. It can be incredibly painful and confusing, and it can be hard to know what to do. If you’re dealing with infidelity in your marriage, there are a few things that you can do to help you deal with it biblically.
- Pray for wisdom and guidance.
- When facing a difficult situation like this, it’s important to seek God’s wisdom and guidance. Pray for Him to give you the strength to deal with the pain and the wisdom to know what to do next.
- Talk to your spouse about what happened.
- It’s important to communicate with your spouse about what happened. This will help you to understand why it happened, and it will also help you to start working on rebuilding trust.
- Seek counseling from a trusted source.
- If you’re struggling to deal with the pain on your own, seek counseling from a trusted source. This could be a pastor, counselor, or therapist. They can help you work through the pain and start rebuilding your marriage.
- Give yourself time to heal.
- This is not going to be an overnight process. It will take time to heal from the hurt inflicted on you. Allow yourself the time to grieve and process what has happened.
- Lean on God for support . . .
- One of the most important things you can do is lean on God for support during this time.
- What the Bible says about infidelity
- The Bible is very clear when it comes to the topic of infidelity. God is clear in His Word that He hates divorce and considers it a sin. He also tells us that He will judge those who commit Adultery.
- Thou shall not commit Adultery.
- The seventh commandment is, “Thou shalt not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14). Adultery is sexual immorality between a married man and a woman who is not his wife, or sexual immorality between a married woman and a man who is not her husband.
The Bible clearly prohibits Adultery. In the Old Testament, Adultery was punishable by death (Leviticus 20:10; Deuteronomy 22:22-24). In the New Testament, Jesus teaches that lustful thoughts are equivalent to Adultery (Matthew 5:27-28).
Adultery is also mentioned in several of the Proverbs as one thing that wisdom will protect us from (Proverbs 2:16-19; 6:23-29; 7:5-27).
The book of Hebrews also warns us against Adultery, saying that it will lead to judgment (Hebrews 13:4). In the book of Revelation, we are told that those who practice Adultery will not enter into the city of heaven (Revelation 21:8; 22:15).
So what should you do if you have committed Adultery? The first step is to confess your sin to God and ask for His forgiveness (1 John 1:9). If you have been involved in an ongoing affair, you need to immediately break off all contact with the other person. If you are married, you must tell your spouse what has happened and ask for forgiveness. You should also seek Christian counsel to help you deal with this difficult situation.
Flee from sexual immorality
Sexual immorality is a serious problem in our society today. Many people engage in extramarital affairs and another sexual sins without considering the consequences.
The Bible has a lot to say about sexual immorality. In the book of Proverbs, we are warned that those who engage in sexual sin will be destroyed. The book of Galatians tells us that sexual immorality is a grave sin that can lead us astray from God.
The book of 1 Corinthians tells us we should flee from sexual immorality. This means that we should avoid it altogether. We should not even participate in activities that might lead us to temptation.
If you are currently involved in an extramarital affair or are thinking about having one, I urge you to flee from sexual immorality. Seek forgiveness from God and turn away from your sin. You may not be able to undo the damage you have already done, but you can make things right with God and start living a life that pleases Him.
Marriage is to be honored
Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”
In 1 Corinthians 7:2-5, Paul explains how husbands and wives conduct themselves sexually. He says, “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his wife, and each woman her husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife and the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
In 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Paul warns against sexual immorality and says that our bodies are not our own but belong to God. This is what he says: “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
How to deal with infidelity
There are a few things that you need to keep in mind if you want to deal with infidelity biblically. The first thing is that you need to understand that forgiveness is key. If you can’t forgive, you will have difficulty moving on. Secondly, you need to realize that you’re not alone. Many people have gone through this, and you can also get through it.
The Bible clearly states that God forgives us when we repent and ask for His forgiveness. This is why we are told to forgive others. We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). When we confess our sins, God is faithful and forgives us and cleanses us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). This is His promise to us. He will forgive us if we ask Him to.
However, forgiveness is not always easy. It often requires time, effort, and a willingness to let go of anger and resentment. If you have been the victim of infidelity, you may feel betrayed, hurt, and angry. You may find it difficult to trust again. But it is possible to forgive your spouse and move on from this difficult experience.
Here are a few things to keep in mind as you seek forgiveness:
- Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or condoning what happened. It means letting go of the anger and hurt to move on with your life.
- Forgiveness does not happen overnight. It is a process that takes time.
- Forgiveness is an act of the will. It would help if you made a conscious decision to forgive.
- Forgiveness does not mean you are weak; it takes strength to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply.
- Forgiveness does not mean you have to reconcile with the person who hurt you; it simply means letting go of the anger and hurt so that you can move on with your life.”
- One of the most important things you can do if you suspect your spouse is cheating is to talk to them about it. Try to approach the conversation in a non-accusatory way. For example, you might say, “I’m feeling like something isn’t right in our relationship, and I wanted to talk to you about it.” If your spouse denies cheating, ask them directly if anything is going on that they want to tell you about. It’s important to allow your spouse to be honest with you.
- The first and most important thing is that you are not alone. Many marriages go through this—infidelity is one of the main reasons marriages end. You may feel like your world is crumbling, but there is hope. You can overcome this if you are both willing to put in the work.
The second thing to know is that trust has to be earned. It cannot be given freely after it has been broken. That doesn’t mean your spouse can never earn your trust back, but it will take time, patience, and a lot of work. You will need to see evidence that they are truly sorry and have changed their ways before you can even begin rebuilding trust.
If you decide to stay in the marriage, there are three main things you need to do:
- Forgive yourself: This is not your fault. You did not cause your spouse to cheat, and you cannot control their actions. Forgiving yourself will help you move on from the pain and start working on rebuilding your marriage.
- Forgive your spouse: This will not be easy, but it is essential if you want to save your marriage. Resentment and anger will eat away at you if you do not forgive them. Try to see things from their perspective and understand why they did. Then let it go and focus on rebuilding your relationship.
- Communicate: Infidelity can greatly blow your self-esteem and make it hard to trust anyone, let alone your spouse. But communication is key to rebuilding trust in your relationship. It would help if you talked about what happened, why it happened, and how you can prevent it from happening again.