The first step is to communicate with your roommate.
The first step is to communicate with your roommate. You need to sit down with them and explain how their messiness impacts you. It’s important to be respectful and understanding but firm in requesting them to clean up more. If they’re receptive to your concerns, you can work together to devise a plan for keeping the place tidy. If they’re not receptive or continue to be messy despite your efforts, you may need to talk to your residence hall staff or consider finding a new roommate.
If that doesn’t work, try to work out a compromise.
If your roommate is leaving messes in shared spaces, try asking them to clean up after themselves or help you with the cleaning. You could also offer to do some of their chores to take on some of yours. You might be able to find a middle ground by making a cleaning schedule that works for both of you or designating certain areas of the apartment as your own space that your roommate can’t enter. If you’re still struggling to agree, you can always talk to your landlord or housing association about setting some ground rules.
If all else fails, you can always move out.
It’s not easy living with someone who doesn’t share your neat freak tendencies. But before you go running for the hills (or, more likely, post an angry note on your community board), consider these tips for dealing with a messy roommate:
-Pick your battles. If your roommate leaves dishes in the sink or their clothes on the floor, it’s probably not worth getting into a fight. But if they’re doing something that is bothering you, like leaving the bathroom a complete disaster, it’s worth bringing up.
- Have a conversation. They may not even realize that they’re being messy! Instead of getting into a yelling match or leaving passive-aggressive notes around the apartment, sit down with your roommate and discuss the issue.
- Be respectful. Remember to be respectful of their things and space, even if your roommate is a slob. Just because you don’t think their habits are necessarily clean doesn’t mean you should go through their stuff or throw away their things without asking.
- Set some ground rules. If you can’t seem to get on the same page as your roommate regarding cleanliness, it might be helpful to set some ground rules. For example, you could agree to only use certain kitchen areas for cooking and eating or establish a “no shoes in the house” policy.
- Make a cleaning schedule. If you want to avoid arguments about who should be doing what when cleaning the apartment, sit down with your roommate and make a cleaning schedule. This way, you will know exactly what needs to be done and when it needs to be done.
- Get professional help. They can come in and help get your apartment back to its former glory – at least until your messy roommate moves out! You can always contact a professional cleaning service if nothing else works and you can’t stand living with a messy roommate.