Acknowledge what happened
Bad things happen to good people all the time. You didn’t deserve what happened, but it happened, and you have to deal with it. The first step is to acknowledge what happened. This means you must come to terms with what this person did to you. Once you do this, you can start the process of moving on.
It’s not your fault
You didn’t do anything to deserve being treated badly. No one deserves to be mistreated, ever. It’s not your fault that someone else chose to act in a hurtful way.
It’s important to remember this, especially if you’re feeling guilty or like you could have done something to prevent the situation. It’s not your fault, and you did nothing wrong.
It’s not about you
When we’re hurt, our first instinct is to think that there’s something wrong with us. We might even blame ourselves for what happened. It’s easy to do, but it’s important to remember that it’s not about you. The other person’s bad behavior says much more about them than it does about you.
By remembering this, you can start to heal and move on. Here are a few things that might help:
-Talk to somebody who will understand and be supportive, like a friend or therapist.
-Write down your thoughts and feelings in a journal.
-Focus on taking care of yourself by eating well, exercising, and getting enough sleep.
-Do something nice for yourself, like getting a massage or buying yourself a new book.
-Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.
Grieve the loss
You’ve been hurt by someone who treated you badly, and now you want to know how to get over them. The first step is to grieve the loss. This means recognizing that the person who treated you badly is no longer a part of your life and that you are grieving their loss of them. This can be a difficult process, but it is necessary to move on.
Allow yourself to feel sad, angry, and scared
It’s normal to feel a range of emotions when grieving the loss of a relationship, even if it is unhealthy or toxic. You may feel sadness, anger, relief, or a combination of all three.
It’s OK to cry and to express your feelings. Don’t try to bottle them up. Allow yourself to grieve in whatever way feels right for you. Some people find writing helpful. Others find solace in nature, music, or spending time with friends and family.
Don’t bottle up your emotions
It is only natural to want to bottle up your emotions and keep them hidden away after you have been treated badly by someone. However, this is not healthy for you in the long run. It is important to allow yourself to grieve the loss of the relationship, even if it wasn’t a good one. This means healthily expressing your feelings, whether talking to a friend or therapist, writing about your experiences, or crying it out. Only by processing your emotions will you be able to move on from the hurt and pain.
Take care of yourself
It is not easy to get over someone who has treated you badly. You might feel heartbroken, disappointed, and even angry. These are all normal emotions to feel. However, you deserve to be treated with respect and love. How someone treats you does not define who you are as a person. You are not responsible for someone else’s bad behavior. The most important thing you can do is to take care of yourself.
Eat healthily and exercise
When you’re going through a tough time, it’s easy to fall into unhealthy habits. You might comfort yourself with food or drink more alcohol than usual. Maybe you stop taking care of yourself and neglect your appearance. Or, you might exercise less than usual. Although it’s normal to indulge in these activities occasionally, doing them in excess can make you feel worse in the long run. To help yourself feel better, aim to eat healthily and exercise regularly.
· Eating healthy foods can help improve your mood and give you energy. Make sure to include plenty of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains in your diet. Also, try to limit sugary and fatty foods.
· Exercise releases endorphins, which have mood-boosting effects. A moderate amount of exercise is the key – too much or too little can make you feel worse.
In addition to these physical changes, you can also make mental changes to help yourself heal after being treated badly by someone else. For example, try to:
· Spend time with positive people who make you feel good about yourself.
· Avoid contact with the person who hurt you, if possible. If you have to see them regularly (for instance, if they’re co-workers), try to keep your interactions limited and professional.
· Do something nice for yourself every day – even if it’s just taking a relaxing bath or reading your favorite book.
Get enough sleep
During a breakup, our bodies go through physical and emotional changes. We may not feel like eating, or we may overeat. We may drink more alcohol or smoke more cigarettes. We may not sleep well. It’s important to take care of your body during this time so that you can heal emotionally and physically.
One of the best things you can do for yourself is to get enough sleep. When we’re tired, we’re more likely to make bad decisions, and we’re more likely to be irritable and moody. Getting eight hours of sleep a night will help you feel better and be more productive during the day.
Do things that make you happy
It’s easy to focus on what we don’t have or lost, but try to remember all the good things in your life. Please list things that make you happy and refer to them when feeling down. Focus on taking care of yourself – mind, body, and soul. Exercise, eat healthy foods, get enough sleep and spend time with positive people. When you take care of yourself, you feel better and are better equipped to deal with whatever life throws your way.
Reach out for support
If you’re finding it hard to cope after being treated badly, tell someone what’s happened. It might be a friend, family member, therapist, or helpline. You might also consider writing down what happened or talking to a therapist. Talking about what’s happened can help you come to terms with what’s happened and start to move on.
Talk to a therapist or counselor
One of the best things you can do after getting out of a toxic relationship is to talk to a therapist or counselor. They can help you work through your feelings and give you some tools to deal with them. If you don’t want to talk to a professional, reach out to a friend or family member who understands and is there for you.
Join a support group
There are a lot of people who have gone through what you’re going through and have come out the other side. It can be helpful to talk to people who understand what you’re going through. You might find comfort in talking to others who have had similar experiences.
Joining a support group can also give you practical tips for dealing with your situation. You can learn how to deal with difficult situations, and you can also get suggestions for how to make your life better.
Talk to friends and family
If you’re struggling to get over someone who treated you badly, it can be helpful to talk to your friends and family. They can provide support and understanding, and they may be able to offer some helpful advice. If you don’t feel like talking to your friends and family, there are other options for getting support, such as counseling or therapy.
Create a new story
It’s easy to get caught up in the story of how someone treated you badly. You replay the hurtful event repeatedly in your mind, reliving the pain. This story can become like a prison, keeping you trapped in the past and preventing you from moving on. But you have the power to change your story. You can choose to create a new story, one that is empowering and healing.
Write down what you want your new story to be
The first step in getting over someone who has treated you badly is to write down what you want your new story to be. This will help you to focus on the positive aspects of your life and to start putting the past behind you.
Think about all the things you are grateful for in your life and all the good things that have happened to you. These can be big or small, but they all add to a story worth telling. Write these down and keep them somewhere where you can see them daily.
As you focus on your new story, the bad memories of the past will start to fade away. You can move on with your life and create the happy ending you deserve.
Visualize yourself living your new story
A story can be a powerful tool to help you shift your perspective and change your life. When you create a new story, you open up the possibility for new experiences and new ways of being.
To create a new story, visualize yourself living the life you want. What does your ideal life look like? What kind of work are you doing? Who are your friends and family? What do you enjoy doing in your free time?
Describe what your life is like in detail. The more specific and vivid you are, the better. Include everything from how you wake up in the morning to how you spend your evenings. Once you have a clear picture of what you want, start writing or telling your story.
As you write or tell your story, focus on how it feels to live this way. What emotions are you experiencing? How does it feel in your body? The more sensation and feeling you can put into your story, the more real it will become for you.
Once you have finished writing or telling your story, take some time to reflect on it. What did creating this new story make possible for you that wasn’t possible before? How has it changed how you see yourself and your life?
Creating a new story is an exercise in possibility. Don’t be afraid to dream big – the sky’s the limit! It’s a way to step out of where you are right now and into the life you want to be living.
Take action steps toward your new story
It’s normal to feel hurt, disappointed, and even angry when you’ve been treated badly by someone you care about. Maybe they didn’t mean to hurt you, but the pain is real. The good news is that there are things you can do to ease the pain and start to move on.
- Acknowledge your feelings. Feeling sad, frustrated, or angry when someone hurts you is OK. Ignoring or stuffing down your emotions will only make them worse in the long run. So go ahead and cry if you need to, or punch a pillow if you’re feeling mad.
- Talk about what happened with someone you trust. Sometimes it helps to talk about what happened with a friend or family member who will understand and support you. They can also offer a helpful perspective on the situation.
- Write down your thoughts and feelings. If talking about what happened isn’t enough, try writing down your thoughts and feelings about the situation. This can help you process and healthily release them.
- Do something nice for yourself. When you’re feeling down, treat yourself to something that makes you happy –– whether it’s a hot bath, your favorite comfort food, or a new book or movie.”