How to handle an ex coming back

How to handle an ex coming back

The first step is to figure out what you want

An ex coming back into your life can be a confusing and overwhelming experience. You may be wondering what you should do or how you should act. The first step is to figure out what you want. Do you want to get back together with your ex, or are you just trying to be friends? Once you figure out what you want, you can take the appropriate steps to make it happen.

If you want to get back together

Exhibit A: You had a great relationship and want to try again.

If you had a great relationship the first time, you might want to give it another chance. But take some time to consider why the relationship ended and whether both of you have truly moved on. If you’re getting back together because you’re lonely or don’t have anything else going on in your life, it’s probably not going to work out.

On the other hand, if both of you have grown and changed and you’re excited about trying again, then go for it! Just make sure that you’re doing it for the right reasons.

If you want to be friends

Your ex may want to be friends because they miss having you in their life. If this is the case, it’s important to set boundaries from the beginning, so things don’t get complicated or hurtful down the road. You should also be honest about your intentions – if you only want to be friends because you’re still hoping for something more, it’s better to let your ex know upfront.

If you decide to try friendship, take things slowly at first. Spending too much time together too soon can rekindle old feelings and make it difficult to stay just friends. Instead, gradually increase your time together and see how things go. You may also want to avoid discussing sensitive subjects like past relationships or breakups, at least at first.

If you want nothing to do with them

It’s OK to feel Torn. You may have Mixed Feelings about your Ex, but that doesn’t mean you want them back in your life. If you’ve decided that you don’t want anything to do with your Ex, here are some tips on how to handle it when they try to come back into your life:

1) Be assertive and clear about your boundaries. If your Ex tries to contact you, let them know in a firm but polite way that you don’t want to hear from them. This includes dinner invitations, text messages, phone calls, and emails. You can say, “I appreciate your offer, but I’m not interested. Please respect my wishes and do not contact me again.”

2) Block their number and social media accounts if necessary. If your Ex is persistent and won’t take no for an answer, you may need to take more drastic measures like blocking their phone number and unfriending/blocking them on social media. This will help you avoid any unwanted communication from them.

3) Keep yourself busy and surrounded by positive people. When you have free time, fill it with activities that make you happy and spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. This will help keep your mind off your Ex and make it easier to move on.

4) Seek professional help if needed. If you find yourself struggling to cope with the situation or move on from the relationship, it may be helpful to speak with a therapist or counselor who can assist you in dealing with these feelings.

The second step is to talk to your ex

Your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend has just called you out of the blue, wanting to talk about getting back together. You’re apprehensive and torn about what to do. You want to get back together but are afraid of getting hurt again. This article will give you some tips on how to handle this situation.

If you want to get back together

If you want to get back together, the first step is to talk to your ex and see where their head is at. If they’re not interested in getting back together, then there’s not much you can do. However, if they are open to the idea, then you can start working on rebuilding your relationship.

Here are some things you can do to make your ex want to get back together with you:

  • Please make sure you’re in a good place mentally and emotionally before you reach out to them. If you’re not, then it’s likely that your ex will sense it, and they won’t be interested in getting back together.
  • Take some time to reflect on what went wrong in the relationship and what you can do to improve things if you decide to give it another try.
  • Communicate openly and honestly with your ex about your feelings and what you hope to get back together.
  • Be patient and understanding with your ex, as they’ll likely need time to decide if they want to give things another go.
  • If you want to be friends
  • If you want to be friends with your ex, you need to take some time to evaluate your feelings and what you want out of a friendship. You also need to ensure that your ex is on the same page and interested in being friends. If you both decide that being friends is best for you, then there are some things you can do to ensure your friendship is healthy and beneficial for both of you.
  • If you want nothing to do with them
  • It’s common to want to keep your distance from an ex after a breakup, especially if the split was acrimonious. But in some cases, it may be necessary to interact with them, whether for work or to resolve shared custody of children.

If you find yourself in this situation, there are some things you can do to make the interactions less painful. First, try to be civil and polite. This doesn’t mean you have to be friends, but it will help to diffuse the tension if you can at least act like adults.

Second, don’t bring up the past. It’s important to focus on the present and future, not dwell on what went wrong in the relationship. This will help you move on and make it easier to deal with your ex.

Finally, make sure you set boundaries. You don’t have to share everything with your ex – it’s probably better if you don’t. Keep communication limited to only what is necessary, and make sure you have some time for yourself outside of any interactions with your ex.

The third step is to make a decision

It would help if you evaluated how you feel and what you want. You also need to think about your goals and if getting back together with your ex will help you achieve those goals. If you’re not sure what you want, that’s OK. You don’t have to have everything figured out. Just take time to think about things and give yourself a little space.

If you want to get back together

Consider a few things before you decide if you want to get back together with your ex.

  1. Why did you break up? If the reason you broke up hasn’t been resolved, getting back together is likely to lead to another breakup.
  2. Are you both on the same page? If you want to get back together because you’re lonely or think your ex misses you, but they’re not interested in getting back together, it’s probably not going to work out.
  3. Do you want to be together? It’s important, to be honest with yourself about why you want to get back together. Those aren’t very good reasons if it’s just because you’re afraid of being alone or because you don’t want your friends and family to see you as a failure. On the other hand, if you miss your ex and genuinely believe that getting back together would make both of your lives better, then it’s worth considering.
  4. Are you both willing to work on the relationship? If either of you is unwilling to put in the effort to make things work, it’s probably not worth getting back together.
  5. If you want to be friends
  6. If you want to be friends with someone, you must be careful about how you go about it. You don’t want to come on too strong, or you could push the person away.

The best way to approach someone is to be Friendly and casual. Talk to the person like you would talk to any other friend. If you act to what they’re saying, they’ll probably be interested in what you have to say.

Try not to act like you’re better than them or know everything. No one likes a know-it-all. Be humble and tell them it’s OK if they don’t know everything. You can learn from each other.

It’s also important to be yourself. Don’t try to be someone you’re not just to impress another person. They’ll see through it eventually, and it’s not worth losing their friendship over.

If you want nothing to do with them

If you want nothing to do with your ex, it is probably best to ignore them. If they keep in contact with you, be polite and curt in your responses. You don’t need to go into detail about why you don’t want anything to do with them or what they did wrong; just let them know that you’ve moved on and aren’t interested in getting back together. If they continue to pursue you, it might be best to block their number or social media accounts so that you don’t have to see or hear from them anymore.