How to handle in laws that don t like you

How to handle in laws that don t like you

Bring a gift

We are social creatures, and it is our nature to reciprocate when someone does something nice for us. When you meet someone for the first time, bringing a small gift is always a nice gesture. It doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive, but something to show that you were thinking of them. This could be a card, a book, a plant, some chocolates, or even a simple cup of coffee. Whatever it is, ensure it is wrapped nicely and comes with a handwritten note.

Compliment them

Please make sure the first time you meet someone; you compliment them. It could be anything from “you have pretty eyes” to “I like your shirt.” If you make someone feel good about themselves, they will automatically like you.

Ask questions about them

You know the basics about them; now it’s time to get to know them deeper. Be genuinely interested in hearing their responses to your questions. People love talking about themselves, so this should be easy. You can even find out some things you have in common! Asking too many direct questions can make you come across as interview-y or make them feel like they’re being interrogated, so try to balance your generic questions with more specific ones.

Some examples of generic questions are:

-What do you like to do for fun?

-What kind of music do you like?

-What shows do you watch?

-What books do you read?

And some examples of specific questions are:

-What was your favorite vacation?

-Do you have any pets?

-What kind of foods do you like/dislike?

-What is your favorite season and why?

When you are around them

The best way to deal with in-laws that don’t like you is to keep your distance. You don’t have to go out of your way to see them, but you also don’t want to be rude. You can still be polite and cordial when you are around them. Let’s explore other ways to deal with in-laws who don’t like you.

Be positive

Be positive. Many people will try and put you down because of your Asperger’s, but don’t let them get to you. Just be positive and try to look on the bright side of things.

Find common interests

One easy way to make small talk is to find common interests with the person you’re talking to. If you know they like a certain sports team, you can ask how they think they’ll do this season. If they’re into a certain type of music, you can ask if they’ve seen any good shows lately. You can also ask about their job, their hobbies, or their plans for the future.

Do not talk about yourself too much

We all want to be interesting, and sometimes we think the best way to achieve this is by talking about ourselves. After all, we are the most interesting people we know! However, when you are around other people, especially new people, it is important to remember that they want to find out about you, not hear you talk about yourself incessantly.

It can be difficult to strike the right balance — you want to be open and honest without appearing boastful or self-absorbed. The trick is to focus on the other person and ask questions that show you are interested in hearing about them. We guarantee they will appreciate it — and you might make a new friend.

If they say something negative about you

It would help if you tried to stay calm and not take it personally. Don’t let their words get to you. Remember that they may be jealous of you or trying to start a fight. It would help if you tried to be the bigger person and not stoop to their level.

Do not take it personally

If someone says something negative about you, try not to take it personally. Instead, try to understand where the person is coming from and why they might feel that way. Often, people say hurtful things not because they are trying to be mean but because they are unhappy.

Thank them for their honesty

Thanking someone for their honesty may seem counterintuitive, but it can be a very effective way to diffuse a difficult situation. When someone is critical of you, it can be easy to get defensive and argumentative. However, if you thank the person for their honesty, it shows that you are willing to listen to what they say. It also takes the wind out of their sails and may make them more likely to listen to what you have to say in return.

Change the subject

Some people try to put others down to make themselves feel better. If someone says something negative about you, don’t take the bait. Change the subject or walk away.