If you’re tired of dating narcissists, there are a few things you can do to change your luck.
First, take inventory of your qualities that might be attractive to narcissists. Do you tend to be attracted to people who are charming and confident? Do you like people who are a little self-absorbed? If so, it’s time to start reconsidering your type.
Another thing you can do is to start setting boundaries with the narcissists in your life. Tell them that you want to hear about their lives, but you also want to talk about your own life as well. If you have a friend who is always talking about themself, try setting some limits on the conversation.
You can also stop enabling narcissists by refusing to do things they should be doing for themselves. Start saying no if your friend asks you to help them with their work or problems. Narcissists often rely on others to do things for them, and by refusing to do things for them, you’ll be cutting off one of their main sources of supply.
Finally, don’t be afraid to walk away from toxic relationships. If someone in your life constantly puts you down or makes you feel bad about yourself, it’s time to end the relationship. You deserve better than that.
The three types of narcissists
There are three types of narcissists: exhibitionist, closet, and toxic. Exhibitionist narcissists are the ones who love to be in the limelight all the time. They are the life of the party and are always seeking attention. Closet narcissists are the ones who are not as outwardly noticeable as exhibitionists, but they still need constant validation and approval from others. Toxic narcissists are the most dangerous type. They are manipulative, controlling, and often abusive. If you are attracted to narcissists, there are ways to change your behavior, so you can stop attracting them.
The overt narcissist
The most commonly recognized type of narcissist is the arrogant, cocky, self-assured overt narcissist. They are the ones who are most likely to brag, order people around, and be critical of others. They need to be the center of attention and will go to great lengths to ensure they are. They think they are better than everyone else and need constant validation. If you find yourself repeatedly attracted to this type of person, it’s important to understand why. Do you have low self-esteem? Do you feel like you’re not good enough? Do you constantly need approval from others? Once you can understand what attracts you to this type of person, you can begin to work on changing those things about yourself.
The covert narcissist
The covert narcissist is the most dangerous type because they are not easily recognizable. They are often introverted and appear to be shy or sensitive. They are usually very intelligent and well-spoken.
Covert narcissists are experts at manipulation and use their intelligence and charm to take advantage of other people. They are often very successful in life and can be very persuasive. They may seem like they have your best interests at heart, but in reality, they only care about themselves.
Covert narcissists are master manipulators who will use your weaknesses against you. They may try to control you with compliments or flattery. They may also gaslight you or make you feel crazy by contradicting what you say or making you doubt your memory.
Covert narcissists can be very emotionally abusive. If you are in a relationship with a covert narcissist, you may feel like you are always walking on eggshells. You may feel like you can never do anything right. You may also feel like you are constantly being put down or criticized.
If you think you might be in a relationship with a covert narcissist, it is important to get out of the relationship as soon as possible. Covert narcissists will only continue to hurt and manipulate you if you stay with them.
The communal narcissist
Communal narcissists are the least common type, but they can be just as damaging as the other two types. As the name suggests, communal narcissists focus on community and helping others. They’re often involved in charities or other community-based organizations.
While their intentions may seem good, communal narcissists are more interested in how helping others makes them look. They’re often quick to take credit for someone else’s work and may inadvertently step on others while trying to climb the ladder.
If you’re attracted to communal narcissists, it’s important to be aware of their narcissistic tendencies. Otherwise, you may find yourself in a one-sided relationship where you’re always giving, and they’re always taking.
How to stop attracting narcissists
Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting narcissists? If you’re tired of ending up in relationships with narcissists, there are some things you can do to change the type of person you’re attracting. Let’s take a look at how you can stop attracting narcissists.
Be aware of the warning signs
The first step in avoiding a relationship with a narcissist is to be aware of the warning signs. Watch out for someone who:
-Talks incessantly about themselves
-Is excessively concerned with their appearance
-Demands a lot of attention and admiration
-Is unable to empathize with others
-Takes advantage of others
-Is excessively competitive
-Is quick to anger or withdraws easily
If you notice these red flags, it’s best to steer clear. Narcissists are often charming and charismatic at first, but their true colors will eventually show. Don’t let yourself be drawn in by their false facade.
Don’t be afraid to be single
Being single can be a great opportunity to work on yourself and focus on your happiness. One of the most attractive qualities of a narcissist is neediness; they are attracted to people they can control and will give them constant attention. If you are happy and content with being single, you are less likely to attract a narcissist.
Be confident in yourself
One of the most important things you can do to stop attracting narcissists is to be confident. Narcissists are attracted to people they perceive as being weaker than they are, so you will be much less attractive to them by appearing strong and confident. So work on building up your self-confidence, and ensure you are happy and content before trying to attract someone into your life.
If you find yourself regularly attracting narcissistic partners, it’s important to take a step back and examine your patterns and behavior. There are often underlying issues that need to be addressed, such as low self-esteem or codependency. Once you work on healing these issues, you’ll be less likely to attract narcissistic partners into your life.