Why do we believe our thoughts?
We believe our thoughts because we think they are true. But thoughts are just thoughts. They are not necessarily true. Just because you have a thought doesn’t mean it’s true.
The stories we tell ourselves
We all have stories or stories we tell ourselves about who we are. Usually, these stories start helpful. They may be based on our successes and motivate us to keep going when things get tough. But sometimes, these stories can become detrimental. We may start to believe that we need to be better or will never succeed. These negative beliefs can hold us back from reaching our full potential.
It is important to remember that our thoughts are just thoughts— they are not necessarily true. Just because we think something does not mean it is true. If we want to be successful, we need to learn how to question our thoughts and reframe them in a more positive light.
Our negative beliefs often start to unravel when we look at the evidence. One way to do this is to challenge the evidence that supports our negative beliefs. For example, if we believe we are not good enough, we can ask ourselves what evidence supports this belief. Are there any areas in which we excel? Any compliments that we have received? Any times when we have achieved something despite feeling doubtful?
It is also helpful to remind ourselves of our values and what is truly important. When our thoughts are focused on negativity, it cannot be easy to see the good in ourselves and the world around us. But when we remind ourselves of what matters most to us— whether it is our relationships, our work, or our health—we can begin to see the positives again. From there, it becomes easier to take actions that align with our values instead of being controlled by negative thoughts.
The need for approval
We all need approval. It’s part of our human nature. We want to be liked, accepted, and valued by others. And, most of all, we want to feel good about ourselves.
This need for approval can lead us to believe things about ourselves that may not be true. For example, we may believe we are not good enough or not worthy of love or respect. These beliefs can lead to feelings of low self-esteem and worthlessness.
The need for approval can cause us to doubt our abilities and second-guess our decisions. We may shy away from new challenges or opportunities because we fear failure or rejection.
Ultimately, the need for approval can hold us back from living our best lives. It can prevent us from taking risks and pursuing our dreams and goals.
If you find yourself doubting your worth or abilities, it’s important to remember that your thoughts are just thoughts – they are not necessarily true. Challenge your negative thoughts and beliefs by asking yourself if there is any evidence to support them. If not, let them go and focus on the things that make you feel good about yourself.
How to stop believing your thoughts
Thoughts are just thoughts. They are not necessarily true or real. Just because you have a thought doesn’t mean it’s true. It’s important to realize that thoughts are just thoughts and not facts. Otherwise, you’ll start believing everything you think, which can be harmful.
The first step to dealing with your thoughts is becoming aware of them. Once you’re aware of your thoughts, you can start questioning them. Why do you think that? Is it true? Does it help you or hurt you to think that?
If your thoughts are harmful, or if they’re just needless worry, stress, and anxiety, then it’s time to start changing them. You can do this by choosing to believe more helpful and positive thoughts.
It might sound easy, but it does take some practice. The more you do it, the easier it will become. And soon, it will be second nature.
There is a difference between thoughts and beliefs. Thoughts are products of the mind, while beliefs are products of the heart. Thoughts can be changed, but beliefs must be accepted.
The first step to stopping believing your thoughts is to become aware of them. Pay attention to the things you tell yourself daily. If you think negative thoughts, try to reframe them in a more positive light.
The second step is to start practicing acceptance. This doesn’t mean that you have to agree with your thoughts, but it does mean that you need to let them go. Stop fighting against your thoughts and accept them for what they are: just thoughts.
The third and final step is to take action. Once you’ve become aware of your thoughts and learned to accept them, it’s time to start taking action despite them. This means doing things that make you feel good, even if your mind tells you not to. Do things that scare you because living in fear is no way to live.
BELIEF > THOUGHT
Be curious about your thoughts. When you find yourself lost in thought, take a step back and ask yourself what is happening. Why am I thinking this? What is this thought trying to tell me? How does this thought make me feel?
What to do instead of believing your thoughts
I will share with you a very powerful tool that will help you stop believing your thoughts. This tool is called mindfulness. Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to the present moment without judgment. When you’re mindful, you can see your thoughts for what they are – just thoughts. Thoughts are not facts. They’re not permanent. They’re not who you are.
Listen to your body
Your thoughts are only sometimes accurate. They can be downright lies. Your mind makes up stories, and most of them are NOT true.
That doesn’t mean you should never listen to your thoughts. But it does mean that you shouldn’t believe everything they tell you.
Instead of believing your thoughts, try listening to your body. Your body is always telling the Truth. It never lies to you.
When you listen to your body, you’ll start to notice when your thoughts are lying to you. For example, if your mind tells you that you’re not good enough, but your body feels strong and capable, you’ll know that your mind is lying.
Listening to your body will help you make better decisions because you’ll base them on the Truth instead of lies. So the next time you’re unsure what to do, listen to your body instead of trusting your thoughts.
Connect with others
It can be difficult to silence the negative voice in your head, but you can try to counter it by connecting with others. Talk to a friend or family member about what you’re going through, and surround yourself with positive people who will support you. You should also seek a therapist or counselor to help you learn how to better deal with your thoughts.
Another way to connect with others is to get involved in your community. Volunteer for a cause you care about, join a club or group, or participate in other activities that make you feel good. Helping others can take the focus off of your problems and help you feel better about yourself.
Self-compassion is treating yourself with the kindness, caring, and understanding you would show others. It involves recognizing your humanity and acknowledging that we all make mistakes and have difficulties.
When you’re feeling down on yourself, try to remember that everyone goes through tough times. Talk to yourself the way you would talk to a good friend. Be gentle and understanding with yourself. Offer yourself compassion and care.
Research has shown that self-compassion can lead to increased psychological well-being and happiness. So next time you’re having a hard time, be kind to yourself and see how it makes you feel.