How to stop letting someone hurt you

How to stop letting someone hurt you

Acknowledge that you’re being hurt

It’s important to acknowledge that you’re being hurt, even if you’re unsure why. This can be a difficult thing to do, but it’s an important first step. Once you’ve acknowledged that you’re being hurt, you can begin to figure out why and how to stop it.

If you’re not sure if you’re being hurt, ask yourself if you feel:








If you feel any of these things regularly, there’s a good chance that someone is hurting you. If something feels wrong, it probably is. It’s important to trust your gut in these situations.

Understand why you’re being hurt

It can be difficult to break free from a cycle of getting hurt by someone, but it’s important to understand why you keep getting hurt before you can break the cycle. If someone hurts you emotionally or physically, ask yourself if there’s a pattern. Do they blame you for their bad behavior? Do they always apologize afterward and promise that it will never happen again?

If you can identify why you keep getting hurt, it will be easier to start taking steps to stop the cycle. If someone constantly blames you, try to converse with them about how their words and actions make you feel. For example, suppose someone always apologizes and promises to change but never actually does. In that case, you should distance yourself from them or set boundaries, so their behavior doesn’t continue to affect you.

Take action to stop the cycle

Once you understand why you keep getting hurt, it’s important to take action to stop the cycle. This might mean distancing yourself from the person hurting you, setting boundaries, or speaking up for yourself.

If someone is constantly apologizing but never actually changing their behavior, it might be best to distance yourself from them. This doesn’t mean that you need to cut them out of your life completely, but it might mean limiting your interactions with them or setting boundaries, so their behavior doesn’t continue to affect you. For example, you might tell them they can only contact you during certain hours or in certain ways.

If someone constantly blames you, try to converse with them about how their words and actions make you feel. They must understand how their behavior affects you and know what kind of treatment you expect from them moving forward.

Determine if the person hurting you is worth staying in contact with

If you find yourself getting hurt by someone regularly, it’s important to take a step back and determine if this is a person you want to continue having in your life. If the answer is no, it’s time to cut ties with this person, even if it’s difficult.

If the answer is yes, you must work on setting boundaries with this person. It’s also important to be clear about what you are willing to do to make the relationship work. Tell them what behavior is unacceptable and that you will not tolerate it.

In either case, it’s important to reach out for support from friends and family members who can offer an objective perspective and help you stay strong when you feel like giving up.

If you decide the person is worth staying in contact with, set boundaries

You’ve been hurt by someone you care about, and it feels unbearable. The person may have lied to you, broken a promise, or disappointed you somehow. This may have happened before. You may feel like you always get hurt by the people you love.

It’s natural to want to protect yourself from further pain. But if you care about the person who hurt you and think there’s a chance for the relationship to improve, it may be worth trying to work things out.

Of course, that doesn’t mean you should forgive and forget. Set boundaries if you decide the person is worth staying in contact with. Let the person know what they did wrong and what they need to do to make things right. Explain that you’re not going to tolerate being treated that way again.

If the person continues to hurt you after that, it may be time to walk away. But at least you gave them a chance to change. And maybe they will.

If you decide the person is not worth staying in contact with, cut ties

It’s important to remember that you don’t owe anyone an explanation for your decision to cut ties. You might feel obligated to justify your decision to the person you’re cutting off, but ultimately, it’s up to you who you want in your life. If someone has hurt you, it’s OK to protect yourself by distancing yourself from them.

There are a few different ways you can cut ties with someone. If the person is someone you regularly see, like a family member or coworker, you should limit your interactions with them. This might mean avoiding them as much as possible or only speaking to them when necessary. If the person is someone you don’t regularly see, like an ex-partner or friend, you can end things by unfriending or blocking them on social media or simply not speaking to them anymore.

It’s understandable if you feel hesitant about cutting ties with someone, especially if they were once an important part of your life. But remember that you have a right to protect yourself from anything that makes you feel unsafe or uncomfortable.