Define the behavior you want to change
Adolescent behavior can be hard to define, but this article defines it as childish, immature, or nonsensical behavior. This behavior can be frustrating and embarrassing, especially if you exhibit it. If you want to stop your silly behavior, the first step is to define the behavior you want to change.
Identify the triggers of the behavior
The first step to stopping a silly behavior is to identify the triggers of the behavior. Once you know what sets off the behavior, you can change your response to those triggers. For example, if you often start acting silly around your friends, try to be more aware of the situations that lead to that behavior. If you are trying to get attention, try to find another way to get the attention that does not involve acting silly. If you are bored, try to find something else to do instead of acting silly.
Choose a replacement behavior
The first step is to decide what you want your dog to do instead of silly behavior. For example, if he jumps up on guests, you’ll need to train him to sit or lie down when people come in the door. If he steals food from the counter, he must learn to stay away from countertops altogether or wait patiently for scraps.
Set up a plan
You’ve been patient. You’ve been consistent. But your child’s behavior is still out of control. What do you do? The solution is to set up a plan.
Choose a consequence for the behavior
Before setting up a plan, you need to decide what consequence will be appropriate for the behavior you want to address. The consequence should be unpleasant for your child but not harmful. It should also be something that is reasonably within your power to deliver. For example, if you want your child to stop being disruptive during class, a consequence might be that they have to stay after school for an hour.
Choose a reward for the replacement behavior
Consistency is key when it comes to stopping a behavior. Every time your dog exhibits the old behavior, it should be immediately redirected to the new behavior. This may take some time and patience, but eventually, your dog will catch on.
To keep things interesting for your dog (and to increase the likelihood of success), it’s a good idea to choose a reward for the replacement behavior that is more valuable than the reward for the old behavior. For example, if you are trying to get your dog to stop begging at the table, you might give them a treat when they lie down next to you during meals.
Implement the plan
Decide what silly behavior you want to address. This might be like name-calling, not following rules, not listening, or other things. Choose one or two main behaviors to focus on. Once you have decided what behaviors need to be changed, you can begin to make a plan.
Be consistent with the plan
You’ve planned, you’ve organized, and you’re ready to parent like a pro. But even the best-laid plans can go awry when kids refuse to cooperate. What do you do when your 3-year-old throws a tantrum in the middle of the grocery store or your 5-year-old refuses to get out of bed in the morning?
The key to getting kids to follow through with your expectations is consistency. Praise them with words or hugs when your child exhibits the desired behavior. Likewise, every time your child engages in undesired behavior, provide a consistent consequence. With younger children, this might mean one minute of timeout each year. So, a 3-year-old would get three minutes in timeout, while a 5-year-old would get five minutes.
Older children might lose privileges, such as TV time, for engaging in undesired behavior. The important thing is that you are consistent with both the desired and undesired behaviors. If you only provide consequences some of the time, your child will quickly learn that they can get away with misbehavior some of the time. But if you are consistent 100% of the time, your child will soon learn that there are clear expectations and consequences for both good and bad behavior.
Monitor the progress of the plan
Once the plan is in place, it is important to monitor the progress to see if it is working as intended. This can be done in several ways, depending on the plan’s goals. For instance, monitoring progress might involve tracking sales data over time if the goal is to increase sales. Alternatively, surveys might be conducted at regular intervals to gauge customer sentiment if the goal is to improve customer satisfaction. Another possibility is to track metrics related to the success factors identified in the planning process. By monitoring these metrics, it should be possible to tell whether or not the plan is on track and whether any adjustments need to be made.